For those of you who have never heard about the "hard to get" behavior, you should know this a terrific way of eliciting interest from anyone you want to get. In the event of a break up, it may even be more potent. Fundamentally, the idea is to put in a few unpredictability and mystery in your behavior. Of course, you should not become completely impossible to follow or understand, because it would be as damaging as being too predictable or available. If it becomes too hard for your ex to be with you, he/she will go away and seek somebody else. Being hard to get works well because by doing so, you increase your value and do not look as somebody needy. You also become a challenge for other people, because they feel they cannot easily control you. Like with any challenge, it sparks off excitement and desire, which is an essential component in a relationship.

While attempting to get your ex back, you should also be different from what you were in your former relationship. You ex must feel that he/she overlooked something the first time. You must exhibit some characteristics that will make him/her tick and be interested. For example, you can dress a bit differently, with well chosen clothes that will enhance your appearance. Or if you are a woman, and did not wear makeup previously, perhaps it is the right time to give it a try. Go to a specialized shop and ask for advice. For males, try some new fragrance. This sort of change can look trivial, but it will actually be noticed immediately. The whole idea is to trigger a renewed interest from your ex, and to prove him/her that you are actually a much more appealing person than they previously felt.

Unpredictability is likewise a very important constituent. Your ex should never be able to guess what you are going to do or say. If you are too predictable, you do not supply a sense of mystery and you are not a challenge either. This is the best way to make your ex lose any interest in you, and he/she will not want to pursue a relationship with you again. You must think out of the box and become more active. If your ex broke up with you, chances are that you were a sort of inactive and "gentle" person. To get your ex back, it is necessary to prove him/her that you are no more the unexciting person you once were, but rather someone with hidden resources and active behavior.

It is important that you have the right mindset with regard to your ex. In a sense, you must merit his/her time, and being an exciting and "hard to get" person is exactly about this. If you were in your ex's shoes, you would likely not wish to go out and spend time with a tiresome and needy person. So, make yourself a favor and become the person you would like to date. Try to arouse curiosity, and do not grant too much too quickly to preserve future surprises. For instance, do not try to have sex at all cost on the first date. Instead, terminate the date a bit before what your ex anticipates. By doing so, you will not appear needy, and you will arouse more desire and excitation.